Hypnotherapy for self-esteem issues. February is the month of Valentine’s day, a time when we show our love and appreciation for our partners and lovers, but for some it can be a time of; Jealousy, emotional manipulation, criticism or abusive and controlling behaviour, these are all typical expressions of someone with feelings of low self-esteem.
Self-esteem is a perception, it’s the way we perceive our own worth as a human being, of all our self-perceptions, esteem is the most important. It has a huge impact on every aspect of our lives. It affects the way we feel most of the time. Poor or low self-esteem can cause feelings of low self-confidence, guilt, shame, fear, anxiety or depression. It can affect how we react to people, what risks we are prepared to take, and our willingness to be assertive or take control of situations that affect us. Most importantly it can affect our ability to feel happy and safe in our world.
Hypnotherapy for self-esteem can change those unconscious negative belief structures, that can cause us to feel inferior to others or unworthy of love. Jealousy and controlling behaviours are not an expression of love. They are damaging to relationships and only increase our negative self-beliefs. It is self-perpetuating those very things that are toxic to our mental wellbeing.
Self-esteem is not the same thing as self-confidence, we can be confident in our ability to do certain things, but still have low self-esteem. Knowing that we can do things well does not necessarily mean that we perceive ourselves in a positive way.
Like all perceptions our self-esteem is shaped by our life experiences, and interactions with the world around us. Self-esteem is not genetically inherited, it’s moulded and formed throughout our lives. Events in childhood play a significant role in shaping our perceptions, including our own self-worth. Parents are usually the most important influence, teachers, and friends can also influence how we perceive ourselves. People in our childhood give us our earliest messages. If, as a child the messages you received were negative or far from encouraging, it can affect how we value ourselves and foster feelings of inferiority to others or being unlovable. It will inevitably influence how you value yourself now.
Our personality traits affect the way we interpret events, which in turn influences our self-esteem. A person who is anxious is more likely to notice negative or threatening signals and interpret them as a negative experience. A person of low self-esteem may be more likely to be affected by negative comments or behaviours than someone who has high self-worth.
How effectively we can shake off those erroneous and demoralising self-beliefs depend on our subsequent experiences and our inherent resilience. Positive experiences and loving relationships in adulthood will have a positive, affirming impact how you perceive yourself, counteracting damaging messages of the past.
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